Toward the end of last year I began thinking about recommitting to the old ‘Top 6 or 7 For Success’ formula. I’ve heard it so many times: all the successful people make a list of their top priorities and then do those first, before tackling anything else, and that’s how they are so successful.
Sounds good, doesn’t it? Easy, even. But I have to confess that I was often bamboozled. What counted as a priority? I mean, obviously a top priority is revenue-generating work, and then there are the marketing tasks that don’t generate anything immediately but are important, and then there are writing tasks and phone calls and emails and working on the business instead of in it and walking the dog and eating well and meditating/visualising and family needs and so many other important things.
The moment of clarity came when I realised that my top priorities were supposed to align with my highest goals! (I know: Blinding Flash of the Obvious…) Since I’d already written a new goal card for the year, those ‘Top 3’ had to relate to achieving that goal.
Now I start my day writing out my Big-Year-Goal and the ‘Top 3 Priorities’ that directly relate to achieving it. (Three because that’s more achievable than six or seven.)
Then I create another list (with approximately three items) that is my ‘Success Today Looks Like’ list. The items on this list aren’t necessarily aligned with my year-goal, but they relate to other important things I need or want to achieve.
Then I list the ‘Other Stuff’ on the bottom half of the page.
A sense of focus, purpose and self-worth clicked in as soon as I began following this format. I had ‘permission’ to prioritise the items that gave me the most joy because they aligned with my most highly-valued goals. :-)
The ‘Success Today’ list was easy to prioritise because it picked up on some of the other work that was important but not necessarily on my dream list.
And then I have the ‘catch-all’ for the other bits and various reminders to myself.
And if you’re looking for a bit more inspiration to start the new year, come down the rabbit hole into ‘Wunderland’ with me and podcaster Georgia Ellis.
Georgia’s podcast is called ‘Ellis in Wunderland’, and she ‘interviewed me’ last week. She describes herself as a ‘law-abiding, rule-breaking, fear-conquering, future-creating, Super Curious Human Being’ – I love those distinctions! (You'll also find our conversation in places like YouTube, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, etc.)
We spoke about my reasons for writing, how universal laws etc. show up in my work, and the future I’m in the process of creating. It was fun, and I’m especially looking forward to ‘interviewing’ Georgia about the 14 months she spent writing out her goals daily – and then manifeste dall of them. (Stay tuned for what will be a very inspiring conversation!)
These ‘soft lens photos’ are of me presenting at Rosemary McCallum’s ‘Christmas Spectacular’ a few weeks ago.
BIG THANK YOU to Rosemary for inviting me back to share my story and books. I felt very at home among her clients and friends and followers, who all share my values on growth and fun – and we broke a record in sales!
This lady has such a big, faithful, devoted following that she must be doing something right. As my NLP teacher used to say, ‘Success leaves clues’…
If you’d like to experience her wisdom, playfulness and grounded guidance, consider attending the Introductory evening to her Course In Life Mastery in January.
No, it’s not what you’re thinking. I don’t have favourites! I love all my three kids with all my heart.
But I think of my books as my children too. I went through a long gestation period with each one of them, labour pains, a birthing experience, infancy, etc. Some of my books are now adolescents – gosh, they grow up quickly! And some of them are still just toddling around…
But I love all of them – the journey they took me on, the insights, the growth, the sheer joy when people like you write back to thank me for them.
So this is...
You’ve probably been at least partially following the conversation about domestic violence, the ‘Me too’ movement, sexual predators and their unveiling, etc. Perhaps you’ve also heard these statistics: ‘Some 42% of Australians believe women lie about being sexually assaulted, while 31% said a lot of times, women who said they were raped had “led the man on” then had regrets.'*
Melbourne is shocked by the apparently random death of Sisto Malaspina of Pellegrini’s café in Bourke Street – murdered in the course of trying to help someone.
Coming to grips with this shocking event reminds me of the process I went through in trying to understand the concept of divine order when I was writing The Hidden Order.
Years ago I read Getting the Love You Want by therapist and educator Harville Hendrix, and was really impressed. His book guides couples through a ten-week course designed to resolve their relationship problems. As the blurb on his book explains, Hendrix ‘shows how your frustrations originated in unmet childhood needs, and how you are unwittingly trying to resolve them with childhood tactics.’
I was stunned and deeply troubled recently to hear about a friend’s financial circumstances. From beginning married life with a $10,000 mortgage some twenty years ago, today she and her husband are burdened by a mortgage in the hundreds of thousands for the same suburban three-bedroom unit.
Have you heard about Leigh Sales’s new book? Any Ordinary Day is about the ABC TV host’s experiences in going from what she describes as a ‘charmed life’ to a string of crises that have left her feeling fearful about the future.
Following the debacle in Australian federal politics over the last few years, and particularly the last couple of months – and now we have a crisis in the ABC – it occurs to me that a refreshing change would be national leadership via principles rather than personality.
It’s great to see so many schools proclaiming their values via big colourful posters around the campus on subjects to do with kindness and fairness and honesty and tolerance, and I have no doubt that teachers and principals repeatedly emphasise these values when they address students, but what about actual regular skill development?
I submitted my books to this list and thought I'd share it with you as there are several other titles here that will be sure to appeal.
The topics include money, relationships, anger, living intentionally, success and more.
I'd love to know which books you would recommend.
Most of us have a personal story that we re-energise regularly by telling others. Sometimes it’s an empowering story but often we repeat tales of our bad luck or flaws or how things aren’t working out for us. Since ‘what we feed, grows’, it makes sense to be telling stories about our character strengths.
During my novel-writing course one student explained her absence the previous week with the excuse that she had ‘the plague’. Quite acceptable in the middle of winter.
Another student justified her lack of writing progress with a blush and the comment that a past lover had come back into her life – they’d been burning the candle at both ends. The whole class thoroughly enjoyed this excuse – there was lots of laughter and envy.