Love and infatuation have often been confused. The giddy falling-in-love period is a delight and a rush, and at first it's sad when that stage fades away and we begin to encounter the fires and trials that mature our love. But if infatuation grows into a stronger, steadier, deeper love then the loss is really just a transformation, as anyone who is in or has been in a long-term committed relationship understands.
This Valentine’s Day, I hope that one or more of the following apply to you:
- that you are enjoying the pleasure of romance • that you are experiencing an enrichment of your relationship
- that you are finding benefits in challenges…
If there appears to be no love in your life, then I encourage you to find what other forms it might be taking.
- do you have several warm friendships?
- are you learning to love and appreciate yourself, and be there for yourself when it seems that no one else is?
- do you have children or students who give you great joy?
- do you have loyal pets who love you unconditionally?
- do you feel a great love for nature or people in general or life itself?
I’m approaching my wedding day, and am feeling very loved and blessed at this time. I also still feel much love for my ex-partner and wish him only the best. Love is a complex dynamic.
Especially complex in my whimsical ‘romance’, WANTED: GREENER GRASS - a novel about love, envy, and a crazy kind of courage. I received a phone call a few days ago from a Unity minister who had just finished reading it and couldn’t put it down. This book is certainly not for everyone, but it is for those who are interested in what it takes to build strong relationships. The Kindle version is only about $5 and hard copy is $22 if that appeals.
Much love to you,